I know you love your kids. I also know that sometimes you pour so much love into your kids that it hurts. It hurts because you’ve sacrificed a lot of your time, money, and life force energy to support your kids.
It hurts your heart when you feel like you should’ve done more.
It hurts your heart when they don’t seem to appreciate all that you’ve done for them.
It hurts your heart when you give and give and give and feel so depleted.
This kind of giving is not sustainable.
So how do we figure out how to show them that we love them without depleting ourselves?
How often do you give YOURSELF the time, money, and life force energy and support that YOU need?
Even more than showing our teens that we love THEM, we need to show our teens that we love OURSELVES.
We need to love ourselves to model for our teens that they can love themselves.
The sooner we’re able to teach our children that it’s their job to figure out what they need, and to find a way to give it to themselves, the stronger our teens will be.
Teens who can fill themselves up are more confident and make healthier choices because they’re not looking for other people to give them the feelings they crave.
So, how can YOU start to show YOURSELF some love?
Let me just say it,
Self love feels selfish.
Whenever I schedule in some time just for me to do something that I enjoy (like have a long bath, or go for a walk by myself, or drink a cup of tea and look out the window), I feel like I’m taking time I could use to work, or be with my family, or run some errands. Once I realised that if I feel like I’ve been deeply nourished, then I can be more playful and present with my family when I’m with them, then I no longer felt like I was TAKING time, instead I was GIVING my family the best version of myself.
CAUTION. If you haven’t been taking some quality time for yourself, you will feel like you are a bottomless pit. After one blissful hour to yourself, you’ll feel like an hour isn’t enough. It will feel SO GOOD that you’ll worry that you’ll need more and more time away for yourself. You’ll feel like you could just check in to a hotel for a few days and then…just…never…go…home.
Don’t worry. That’s just a signal that you need to schedule more time for yourself, and once you get the hang of incorporating time for yourself into your schedule, you’ll realise how NECESSARY this time is to be at your best. Once you’ve started giving yourself the time, and space, and emotional availability to listen to your deepest needs, you’ll have a greater sense of clarity around what YOU need, and what your family needs.
Of course, you will go home, because you’ll start missing your family. You’ll remember all the quirky and wonderful things you love about them and you’ll be interested in what they have to say. What an amazing gift for your family to have you back with them with love in your heart for yourself, and for them.
When we give ourselves love, then giving love to others is no longer depleting, it is sustainable because we have a better sense of clarity around how to best show our family that we love them.
P.S. What would really nourish you on a deep level? Jump on the phone with me for 30 minutes and we can create an amazing plan that will have your LOVE levels so high, you’ll have love to give! CLICK HERE to connect with me!