Are you feeling overworked and under-appreciated?
Have you been putting your own needs on the back-burner so that you can take care of EVERYONE ELSE?
Here’s what I know for sure:
There are seasons in our life when we need to take care of others, but when that becomes our default setting, that leads to exhaustion, resentment, and sickness!
Sometimes, we need to take a step back from our default setting, and re-calculate how we’re operating day-to-day.
If you’re willing to open up to GRATITUDE, it’s easy!
That’s why I’m so excited to invite you to join me for a GRATITUDE RETREAT.
Step back from your life for a weekend, and allow me to guide you into GRATITUDE
(It’s my superpower, and it can be your superpower, too!)
With gratitude, you shift out of stress and into your heart. Through gratitude you gain:
- CLARITY around who you are, and who you’re not
- CONFIDENCE in your ability to take care of yourself through the stressful times
- CONNECTION with your own inner spark, AND the people you love
CLICK HERE for the full invitation
P.S. If there’s someone in your life who seems to have lost their spark, please copy and paste this link, and invite them to retreat into gratitude!
MINDFULNESS: The new science of health and happiness is the title of TIME magazine’s most recent special edition.
If you’ve been wondering about the benefits of tuning in to the power of the present moment, just flip through the mag and you’ll read about how mindfulness can help to:
Save yourself from stress
Help students “get an edge” in the classroom with sharper thinking and more self-control
Rest your brain from multitasking
Release happy chemicals(endorphins) in the brain
Help your digestion
Reduce pain symptoms and migraines
Mindfulness practices such as yoga and meditation are also being embraced by hospitals to help patients heal and manage pain, as well as major corporations such as Nike and Google to help with employee productivity (a happy employee is a productive, creative, and engaged employee).
It’s true that paying attention to the present moment, using all of your senses is SO SIMPLE. But it’s also so easy to get wrapped up in the busyness of life that we overlook the power of SLOWING DOWN, and FOCUSING IN on just ONE THING
One beautiful sunrise.
I hope you’ll find at least 5 minutes today to savour the present moment and focus in on just ONE THING.
“Mindfulness is about putting down our juggling balls for a little bit. It’s about embracing the beauty of monotasking” – Mary Elizabeth Williams
Valentine’s Day brings a LOT of pressure for teens (and, quite frankly, for adults too!)
There is pressure to show your friends that you care, by giving them gifts of chocolate, or a thoughtful card, or supporting the leadership club’s Valentine’s Day fundraiser by having a flower delivered to their homeroom. (While you hold your breath and hope that they did the same thing for you. Is your BFF really your BFF?)
There is pressure to ask out your “crush”, or to tell your friends who your “crush” is (or to be constantly wondering if it’s safe to tell your best friend that your “crush” is someone of the same sex)
There’s pressure to ask someone out because the other kids are dating, or at least telling stories about dating.
There’s pressure to take the relationship you’re in to “the next level”.
There’s the constant worry that the relationship won’t work out, or maybe it will, and do you really want that?
Let’s take some of the pressure off, and focus on the TRUTH:
The ONLY relationship that you will have for your ENTIRE LIFE is the relationship you have with yourself.
So, how’s that going for you?
If you’d love to build UNSTOPPABLE CONFIDENCE in yourSELF
Have a chance to play on Facebook and Instagram to win some cool prizes
Then I have the perfect opportunity for YOU!
CHOOSING ME 5-Day Instagram Challenge for teens (and adults too!)
In this FREE challenge you will receive
- Daily video lessons to build your CONFIDENCE so you can TRUST yourself to make good decisions
- Access to our EXCLUSIVE Gratitude Lounge Facebook Community
- Daily strategic action items for you to do to figure out what it means to LOVE YOURSELF
- The opportunity to WIN big prizes that will help you to nourish your inner life
Authentic CONFIDENCE happens when we know how to give ourselves what we need at the deepest level.
You have nothing to lose, and so much CONFIDENCE to gain!
I would LOVE to be your guide in this 5 day Choosing ME challenge to help you become your own best friend. The challenge begins on February 10th, so go ahead and
CLICK HERE to get started!
“Hey voice in my head”
“tell me something you like about me”
“Hey voice in my head”
Get OUT of this cycle of thought and turn that inner critic into your inner coach.
Join me for HEART POWER for teens: Transform your inner critic into your inner coach for authentic confidence.
This is a 3 part webinar series.January 31, February 7, February 14, 2017
CLICK HERE to register
I look forward to seeing you there!
What if you knew how to create
a fulfilling life for yourself
no matter what circumstances arise?
Teens are suffering from anxiety and depression in record numbers. Teens are under immense pressure to achieve high grades, high status in their social groups, and a long list of extra-curriculars. Parents are under pressure to perform at work, and to provide their teens with all the opportunities at sports, and dance, and drama, etc. etc., that they need to be “successful”. We are living in an achievement-driven world. We reward people for their athletic accomplishments, their physical appearance, their wealth, and their credentials. Many people who are admired for their talent, beauty, fame, and wealth are MISERABLE. So, the question is, how do we find fulfillment in an achievement-driven world?
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t set goals. Everyone needs something that they are reaching for so they continue to grow and develop. Maybe, just maybe, all of this striving for something in the future needs to be balanced out by some time spent enjoying the moment.
How can I learn to enjoy the moment?
Stick with me, my friend, I’ll show you the way.
Parents, you need to show your teens that ADULT LIFE IS ENJOYABLE.
Teens, if you can learn to balance out striving for your goals with an ability to enjoy the moment, then you will have an AMAZING LIFE and save yourself from the anxiety and burn-out suffered by many of your peers, and the adults in your life.
What if you could really ENJOY your life?
Are you declaring 2017 to be a year for YOU?
Are you ready to step into your life in a way that is deeply aligned with your values?
Is a part of you feeling guilty that focusing more on YOU will mean focusing less on your teens?
I know that adults who are focused on their own growth and development are MORE aware of how they can support their teens in ways that are sustainable and lasting.
Go ahead- make this the year that YOU step into your own life, and get clear on your role in your teen’s life.
I’m here to help.
Happy New Year!
What makes you jump for joy?
When we told our 3 and 5 year old kids that we were going to get our Christmas tree, they literally jumped for joy! They jumped, and giggled, and looked at each other, which kept the jumping and giggling going for a few minutes, and my partner and I smiled, and laughed too. Joyful enthusiasm is contagious!
The opposite is also true. Sometimes it’s not “cool” to show true joyfulness. It’s as if JOY is a hallmark of the childish, ignorant or unintelligent. Sometimes it seems that the only acceptable use of JOY in the teen world comes out as, [sarcasm] Oh, JOY! [eye rolling]
Even for adults, Joy might be remote. I’ll admit, Joy isn’t one of the emotions that I experience very often. I am often content, pleased, and grateful, but joy comes in such erratic bursts that I have to really take note when it happens. I’ve become a bit of a “joy detective”; I’m always on the lookout for what brings me a moment of joy. I have a “Joy Jar” on my kitchen counter. Whenever I have a joyful moment, I write it down on a slip of paper, and stuff it in the jar.
Here are a few moments from my “Joy Jar”
- Dancing in the living room with our kids
- Riding my bike on a beautiful fall day
- My son playing with his toys as he sings “Everything is awesome”
These are the simple, sweet, wonderful moments that make my life worth living. Not only are those brief moments of joy so wonderful, but I can actually re-live them by writing them down and savouring the memory. When I’m feeling low in the joy department, I take a few papers out of the jar and read them over, a smile crosses my lips, and I know that I can continue on. Not only that, but I have a clear image of what actually brings me joy.
The old adage “what you look for, you will find” is so very true. When I’m planning my day, or my week, I’m wondering how I can create an opportunity for joy, instead of just letting it happen (or not). I know from experience that I’m more able to feel joy I I’ve spent some time taking care of my more uncomfortable emotions like anger and resentment. If I’ve given myself some time and space to process those emotions, I am more able to be present in the moment to experience JOY.
You don’t need to let your emotions happen to you. You don’t need to wait for joy to come along; you can create joy. I’m not talking about pumping yourself up, I’m talking about creating the conditions that will bring you joy. If you feel like joy is too much of a stretch, think about moments in your life that you’re grateful for. Make a list. Notice what qualities these moments share. Then ask yourself- how could I make these moments BETTER? Teens are great at this!
What would make a long car ride better- my favourite movie soundtrack!
What would make an obligatory family dinner better? If I could choose the restaurant!
What would make going to the grocery store better- if I could drive, the car, Mom!
Whether you’re a teen or a parent, become a joy detective in your own life. If joy feels too big, become a gratitude detective. Start noticing the moments that bring a smile to your face. When you really dig into what brings you joy, you’ll find ways to create those conditions more often.
What brings you joy?
With tidings of comfort and joy,
P.S. If you’re serious about cultivating JOY in your life, and you’re excited about the idea of becoming a JOY DETECTIVE, I am here to support you! Book a call with me today to create you very own JOY DETECTIVE treasure map to find up what really lights you up inside!
Does your teen dare to hope?
Teens are reporting higher levels of anxiety, stress and overwhelm each year; despair looms larger than hope. Many of my students feel like everything has already been thought, it has already been said, and they wonder what they could possibly contribute to the world. In this disconnected and isolated space, hope becomes a radical proposition. I’ve heard from many parents who are worried because their teen DOESN’T have any hopes or dreams.
So, how do we nurture our children’s hopes and dreams? How do we hold open the door of possibility?
Hope is all about having a new perspective. It is about seeing the evidence in the present moment that good things are on their way in the future. My students who have been involved in service projects or community groups all see evidence that that their presence is valuable. Whether they volunteered at a Senior’s home, spent time babysitting small children, or volunteered at a community event, they all report feeling connected to the people they serve, and knowing that their presence makes a difference. Teens need to see evidence of their efforts being worthwhile. If they can see the face of a child or a senior light up, they have the undeniable instant feedback that THEY MATTER. This is just one way of providing our teens with the HOPE that their life will continue to matter.
Another powerful way of nurturing dreams and cultivating hope is through inspiring stories. In October I have the incredible honour of interviewing Mark Black for the LIT FROM WITHIN speaker series.
Mark Black is a man who knows about hope. At age 23 Mark faced an unimaginable challenge; His doctor informed him that his heart was failing. Without a rare and dangerous heart and double-lung transplant he would not see his 25th birthday. Three years later, after receiving his second chance at life, Mark ran his first marathon. Since then, Mark has gone on to run more marathons, develop a successful career, and raise a family. Mark Black, CSP (Certified Speaking Professional) is a Heart and Double-Lung Transplant Recipient, 4-time marathoner, resilience expert, speaker, and coach. Mark helps people “Thrive in Challenging Times”. A Certified Speaking Professional, Mark has inspired more than 100,000 people in more than 350 presentations. CLICK HERE for the interviews
Not only is telling stories of hope about other people important, but as you’ll see from Mark’s interviews, the stories we tell ourselves are also critically important. One of my favourite take-aways from these interviews was Mark’s question about “which bucket are you rummaging around in?” which is really his metaphor for asking which stories we are telling ourselves, about ourselves, most often. One of the most powerful themes of the LIT FROM WITHIN speaker series is the importance of training your mind to focus on thoughts that are helpful and life-affirming. When we can tell ourselves the best version of our story, we can dare to dream about a compelling future ahead.
CLICK HERE to enjoy this video encore with Mark Black. My hope is that you’ll be inspired to dream a bigger dream.
Open the door to possibility.
I know that the pressure is ON for everyone in these last few weeks of December.
The holidays are supposed to be a time to connect with family and friends, but sometimes, the tension is so high that these are the days of the most frustration, resentment, and disappointment. Our teens are riding the rollercoaster of emotions as they are reminded that one more year has passed, and the regular family holiday traditions that they once enjoyed don’t give them the same feelings anymore. If you want HARMONY with your teens this holiday, give yourself the gift of one hour to truly prepare for the holidays.
You’re invited to Holiday Harmony With Your Teens, a free 75 minute RETREAT webinar designed to get your out of overwhelm and into what is really important. Together we’ll explore HOPE, PEACE, JOY and LOVE and how those qualities can help you create a lasting connection with your teens.
Holiday Harmony With Your Teens is available until December 23rd.
CLICK HERE to watch.
With tidings of comfort and joy,