Ask your teen!
- TEEN RESEARCH: Ask your teen to make a list of gifts that they’d like for $500 or less, $100 or less, $50 or less,$20 or less, and $5 or less.This will give you a sense of what they’re interested in, and give YOU some options to work with within your budget (and to share with the Grandparents). Give your teen a deadline to get you their list.
- Focus on FEELINGS: Start a new conversation about how your teen would like to FEEL over the holidays…brainstorm together the activities that would help them to feel that way….you might discover the need for some new equipment (a snowboard or skates for winter sports) or an activity (a hot air balloon ride, a concert) that would make a great gift, AND give your teen an activity to look forward to, rather than more “stuff”.
- RANKING: Create a list of gifts that you think your teen would like, and have them rank their top 3 choices.
- GIFT CARDS: This is the ULTIMATE personalised gift, because your teen can choose what they want (within your budget, at a store they love). ITunes, movie theatres, book stores, electronics stores. Many shops also have electronic gift cards or store credit. Some shopping malls even sell gift cards that are valid throughout the entire mall.
- The “I owe U”: Does your teen want to go somewhere over spring break? Is your teen going away to college next year and already wondering how they’ll get home for Christmas? Write your teen an “I Owe U”for future travel, like “I owe U one airfare home next Christmas”. Or “I owe you a zip line tour on our next trip to Costa Rica”. Make sure you create a reminder for yourself about what you’ve promised.
Are you feeling overworked and under-appreciated?
Have you been putting your own needs on the back-burner so that you can take care of EVERYONE ELSE?
Here’s what I know for sure:
There are seasons in our life when we need to take care of others, but when that becomes our default setting, that leads to exhaustion, resentment, and sickness!
Sometimes, we need to take a step back from our default setting, and re-calculate how we’re operating day-to-day.
If you’re willing to open up to GRATITUDE, it’s easy!
That’s why I’m so excited to invite you to join me for a GRATITUDE RETREAT.
Step back from your life for a weekend, and allow me to guide you into GRATITUDE
(It’s my superpower, and it can be your superpower, too!)
With gratitude, you shift out of stress and into your heart. Through gratitude you gain:
- CLARITY around who you are, and who you’re not
- CONFIDENCE in your ability to take care of yourself through the stressful times
- CONNECTION with your own inner spark, AND the people you love
CLICK HERE for the full invitation
P.S. If there’s someone in your life who seems to have lost their spark, please copy and paste this link, and invite them to retreat into gratitude!
Have you ever wondered how some people manage to just be so AWESOME?
DO you sometimes wish for a user’s manual to YOUR life?
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to tap into your LEGENDARY SELF?
You know, the parts of you that are the most awesome, the most funny, the most talented, and to make your decisions from the centre of your own awesomeness?
If you’re ready to UNLOCK the POWER of your LEGENDARY SELF, then join me for a FREE webinar training to take the first steps to YOUR authentic power.
Saturday, February 18th at 9:00 am PT
CLICK HERE to register for YOUR LEGENDARY SELF: Rock solid strategies to live YOUR life not someone else’s
In this webinar you’ll learn the first steps in
1. Accepting yourself
2. Balancing Creativity and Discipline
3. Developing Authentic Confidence
4. Loving yourself
5. Speaking UP
6. Trusting yourself
7. Connecting to your Purpose
8. Setting Healthy Boundaries
I’m SO excited to share this with you!
CLICK HERE to grab your spot!
Valentine’s Day brings a LOT of pressure for teens (and, quite frankly, for adults too!)
There is pressure to show your friends that you care, by giving them gifts of chocolate, or a thoughtful card, or supporting the leadership club’s Valentine’s Day fundraiser by having a flower delivered to their homeroom. (While you hold your breath and hope that they did the same thing for you. Is your BFF really your BFF?)
There is pressure to ask out your “crush”, or to tell your friends who your “crush” is (or to be constantly wondering if it’s safe to tell your best friend that your “crush” is someone of the same sex)
There’s pressure to ask someone out because the other kids are dating, or at least telling stories about dating.
There’s pressure to take the relationship you’re in to “the next level”.
There’s the constant worry that the relationship won’t work out, or maybe it will, and do you really want that?
Let’s take some of the pressure off, and focus on the TRUTH:
The ONLY relationship that you will have for your ENTIRE LIFE is the relationship you have with yourself.
So, how’s that going for you?
If you’d love to build UNSTOPPABLE CONFIDENCE in yourSELF
Have a chance to play on Facebook and Instagram to win some cool prizes
Then I have the perfect opportunity for YOU!
CHOOSING ME 5-Day Instagram Challenge for teens (and adults too!)
In this FREE challenge you will receive
- Daily video lessons to build your CONFIDENCE so you can TRUST yourself to make good decisions
- Access to our EXCLUSIVE Gratitude Lounge Facebook Community
- Daily strategic action items for you to do to figure out what it means to LOVE YOURSELF
- The opportunity to WIN big prizes that will help you to nourish your inner life
Authentic CONFIDENCE happens when we know how to give ourselves what we need at the deepest level.
You have nothing to lose, and so much CONFIDENCE to gain!
I would LOVE to be your guide in this 5 day Choosing ME challenge to help you become your own best friend. The challenge begins on February 10th, so go ahead and
CLICK HERE to get started!
“Hey voice in my head”
“tell me something you like about me”
“Hey voice in my head”
Get OUT of this cycle of thought and turn that inner critic into your inner coach.
Join me for HEART POWER for teens: Transform your inner critic into your inner coach for authentic confidence.
This is a 3 part webinar series.January 31, February 7, February 14, 2017
CLICK HERE to register
I look forward to seeing you there!
What if you knew how to create
a fulfilling life for yourself
no matter what circumstances arise?
Teens are suffering from anxiety and depression in record numbers. Teens are under immense pressure to achieve high grades, high status in their social groups, and a long list of extra-curriculars. Parents are under pressure to perform at work, and to provide their teens with all the opportunities at sports, and dance, and drama, etc. etc., that they need to be “successful”. We are living in an achievement-driven world. We reward people for their athletic accomplishments, their physical appearance, their wealth, and their credentials. Many people who are admired for their talent, beauty, fame, and wealth are MISERABLE. So, the question is, how do we find fulfillment in an achievement-driven world?
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t set goals. Everyone needs something that they are reaching for so they continue to grow and develop. Maybe, just maybe, all of this striving for something in the future needs to be balanced out by some time spent enjoying the moment.
How can I learn to enjoy the moment?
Stick with me, my friend, I’ll show you the way.
Parents, you need to show your teens that ADULT LIFE IS ENJOYABLE.
Teens, if you can learn to balance out striving for your goals with an ability to enjoy the moment, then you will have an AMAZING LIFE and save yourself from the anxiety and burn-out suffered by many of your peers, and the adults in your life.
What if you could really ENJOY your life?
What makes you jump for joy?
When we told our 3 and 5 year old kids that we were going to get our Christmas tree, they literally jumped for joy! They jumped, and giggled, and looked at each other, which kept the jumping and giggling going for a few minutes, and my partner and I smiled, and laughed too. Joyful enthusiasm is contagious!
The opposite is also true. Sometimes it’s not “cool” to show true joyfulness. It’s as if JOY is a hallmark of the childish, ignorant or unintelligent. Sometimes it seems that the only acceptable use of JOY in the teen world comes out as, [sarcasm] Oh, JOY! [eye rolling]
Even for adults, Joy might be remote. I’ll admit, Joy isn’t one of the emotions that I experience very often. I am often content, pleased, and grateful, but joy comes in such erratic bursts that I have to really take note when it happens. I’ve become a bit of a “joy detective”; I’m always on the lookout for what brings me a moment of joy. I have a “Joy Jar” on my kitchen counter. Whenever I have a joyful moment, I write it down on a slip of paper, and stuff it in the jar.
Here are a few moments from my “Joy Jar”
- Dancing in the living room with our kids
- Riding my bike on a beautiful fall day
- My son playing with his toys as he sings “Everything is awesome”
These are the simple, sweet, wonderful moments that make my life worth living. Not only are those brief moments of joy so wonderful, but I can actually re-live them by writing them down and savouring the memory. When I’m feeling low in the joy department, I take a few papers out of the jar and read them over, a smile crosses my lips, and I know that I can continue on. Not only that, but I have a clear image of what actually brings me joy.
The old adage “what you look for, you will find” is so very true. When I’m planning my day, or my week, I’m wondering how I can create an opportunity for joy, instead of just letting it happen (or not). I know from experience that I’m more able to feel joy I I’ve spent some time taking care of my more uncomfortable emotions like anger and resentment. If I’ve given myself some time and space to process those emotions, I am more able to be present in the moment to experience JOY.
You don’t need to let your emotions happen to you. You don’t need to wait for joy to come along; you can create joy. I’m not talking about pumping yourself up, I’m talking about creating the conditions that will bring you joy. If you feel like joy is too much of a stretch, think about moments in your life that you’re grateful for. Make a list. Notice what qualities these moments share. Then ask yourself- how could I make these moments BETTER? Teens are great at this!
What would make a long car ride better- my favourite movie soundtrack!
What would make an obligatory family dinner better? If I could choose the restaurant!
What would make going to the grocery store better- if I could drive, the car, Mom!
Whether you’re a teen or a parent, become a joy detective in your own life. If joy feels too big, become a gratitude detective. Start noticing the moments that bring a smile to your face. When you really dig into what brings you joy, you’ll find ways to create those conditions more often.
What brings you joy?
With tidings of comfort and joy,
P.S. If you’re serious about cultivating JOY in your life, and you’re excited about the idea of becoming a JOY DETECTIVE, I am here to support you! Book a call with me today to create you very own JOY DETECTIVE treasure map to find up what really lights you up inside!
I know that the pressure is ON for everyone in these last few weeks of December.
The holidays are supposed to be a time to connect with family and friends, but sometimes, the tension is so high that these are the days of the most frustration, resentment, and disappointment. Our teens are riding the rollercoaster of emotions as they are reminded that one more year has passed, and the regular family holiday traditions that they once enjoyed don’t give them the same feelings anymore. If you want HARMONY with your teens this holiday, give yourself the gift of one hour to truly prepare for the holidays.
You’re invited to Holiday Harmony With Your Teens, a free 75 minute RETREAT webinar designed to get your out of overwhelm and into what is really important. Together we’ll explore HOPE, PEACE, JOY and LOVE and how those qualities can help you create a lasting connection with your teens.
Holiday Harmony With Your Teens is available until December 23rd.
CLICK HERE to watch.
With tidings of comfort and joy,