So many parents I’ve talked to are wondering what the BEST approach is to supporting their teens to be able to handle what life throws at them (and, honestly, how to handle the demands of living with the emotional ups and downs of a teen).
There are a number of EASY strategies that NO-ONE is talking about that are PROVEN to develop resilience in teens! (but I’m about the let these incredible SECRETS out!)
Is raising a RESILIENT teen one of your goals as a parent?
Is helping your teen to discover their PURPOSE important to you?
Are you always on the lookout for strategies that WORK with teens?
If you said YES to any of these questions, then please keep reading!
Parents today are more stressed, overwhelmed, overworked than ever before (and so are our teens!). Trial and error in parenting can be exhausting! We need EVERY SHORTCUT that we can get!
That’s why I’m so excited to share with you The Top 5 Secrets to Raising Resilient and Purpose-driven Teens
In this 3 part video series, you’ll learn
- How to help your teen overcome the inevitable difficulties in life
- The missing ingredient in most goal-setting programs
- How to help your teen connect with a sense of purpose using the “video game method”
- How to lower the risk of your teen making BIG mistakes
- How to stay connected with your teen TODAY so that you’ll be friends when they are an adult
CLICK HERE to grab your seat, and you’ll have INSTANT ACCESS to the first video!
P.S. The KEY to resilience, is in dipping into the resources that are available, and learning what WORKS! Don’t miss out on this opportunity to learn these under-used strategies for raising resilient and purpose-driven teens! CLICK HERE to grab instant access to this video series!
Are you feeling overworked and under-appreciated?
Have you been putting your own needs on the back-burner so that you can take care of EVERYONE ELSE?
Here’s what I know for sure:
There are seasons in our life when we need to take care of others, but when that becomes our default setting, that leads to exhaustion, resentment, and sickness!
Sometimes, we need to take a step back from our default setting, and re-calculate how we’re operating day-to-day.
If you’re willing to open up to GRATITUDE, it’s easy!
That’s why I’m so excited to invite you to join me for a GRATITUDE RETREAT.
Step back from your life for a weekend, and allow me to guide you into GRATITUDE
(It’s my superpower, and it can be your superpower, too!)
With gratitude, you shift out of stress and into your heart. Through gratitude you gain:
- CLARITY around who you are, and who you’re not
- CONFIDENCE in your ability to take care of yourself through the stressful times
- CONNECTION with your own inner spark, AND the people you love
CLICK HERE for the full invitation
P.S. If there’s someone in your life who seems to have lost their spark, please copy and paste this link, and invite them to retreat into gratitude!
Are you feeling the fall pressure?
Does your calendar ALREADY look completely packed?
Instead of falling into the old patterns of overwork and overwhelm from years past, take some time to make the bold commitment to
DO THIS YEAR DIFFERENTLY.
I’m challenging you to schedule time in your calendar for DOING NOTHING. Schedule in some time every day (10-20 minutes) and a larger chunk of time each week (1-3 hours) when you don’t have a “to-do” list to accomplish.
This is a time to do only what you WANT to do. Do what you’re inspired to do IN THE MOMENT. Sit down, drink a cup of tea, draw, stretch, lay on your bed and listen to music.
Stick to your commitment of allowing yourself this down time (this is for teens AND parents!)
Here’s why: when we give ourselves time to stop, breathe, decompress, rest, and listen to what we need in the moment, our rested mind and body is able to make clearer decisions the rest of the day (so we actually end up saving time!)
Can I tell you a quick story about doing things differently?
Last weekend I ran a 10 K race. There was a woman ahead of me who would run, then slow down to a walk, then run again. I had used this strategy in my training, but on race day I was committed to running at a strong pace for the entire race. I was SO FRUSTRATED that this woman was actually moving at the same pace as me!
Here’s the lesson: We fool ourselves into feeling like we need to push-push-push all day long to be productive and successful, when in fact, varying our pace allows us to use our energy more efficiently, and gives us some much needed VARIETY in our lives so we don’t get burned out from the push.
Give yourself the gift of taking a break EVERY DAY!
You are WORTH IT!
Let’s face it, teens are amazing explorers and life adventurers, and sometimes that gets them into trouble. The teenage brain thrives on new experiences to grow, and so teens are hardwired to experiment. But some experiments come with high risk, and current brain science is telling us that teens are not great at assessing risk and anticipating the consequences of their actions.
As adults, we want to both encourage our teen’s adventurous spirit AND protect them from making damaging mistakes. Perhaps more importantly, when our teens inevitably find themselves in a difficult situation, we want them to learn how to work through it, so that they can build their own problem solving skills.
After all, didn’t YOU make some pretty big mistakes as a teen?
We all did.
The difference between our teenage mistakes and the mistakes of this generation, is the added impact of our children’s mistakes being broadcast far and wide on social media, with devastating consequences for both teens and their families. Our digital connections can be an amazing opportunity, and also a heavy burden. Teens also see the glossy, filtered, photo-shopped, perfect snapshot version of other’s lives on social media, and they are comparing how their life FEELS with how everyone else’s life LOOKS.
If you’ve been following me for awhile, you’ll know that I’ve spent 14 years as a High School teacher, and working with teens every day taught me that my students were under incredible stress and pressure to do, and be, and have it all. Under this intense pressure there was no room for failure, so some students took themselves out of the game completely by skipping school. Others attended school but had an attitude of “I don’t care”, “this is stupid”, or “It doesn’t matter”, or suffered silently with their own devastating inner thoughts and tried to be invisible.
Teens are reporting higher rates of anxiety each year, which is not surprising when we hear how teens feel overwhelmed by the amount of information at their disposal, compare themselves to countless others on social media, and feel like everything has already been said and done. All of these pressures ON TOP OF the usual ups and downs of being a teenager requires all of us to think differently about how we support teens today.
I’ve been wondering,
How can we support critical thinkers instead of direction followers?
How can we provide support to teens, while still allowing them to figure things out on their own?
How can we support RESILIENCE in youth?
To answer these questions, I’ve joined with over 21 thought leaders to bring you an online conference dedicated to supporting RESILIENT teens. The interviews are REAL, short, and to the point CONVERSATIONS with teens, parents, entrepreneurs, coaches, and mentors, who share their own story of resilience, and what they’re doing now to make things a little but easier for others to move through their own hardships. CLICK HERE to grab access!
It’s called Resilient Teen: Supporting independence, confidence, and resourcefulness in teens.
It is FREE for you to attend. You can grab access using THIS LINK
This event is FOR TEENS who want to know how to overcome the tough times, and FOR PARENTS who want to understand how to set teens up for success in school AND life.
You can watch each 30 minute video from your laptop or mobile device, so you will have STRATEGIES and INSPIRATION at your fingertips.
Here is what we’re talking about in the video interviews:
- Developing a positive MINDSET to learn from past mistakes
- How to walk through TEEN DEPRESSION with renewed purpose
- How CONNECTING with their school community helps youth develop resilience
- How teens can THRIVE even when they don’t complete high school
- The KEY SKILLS of resilience and how to teach them to your teen
- How PARENTS can be a supportive resource to their teens
CLICK HERE NOW to gain complimentary access to the experts starting on MAY 1, 2017
I’m excited to share these videos with you!
P.S. Psychologists are telling us that one key to resilience for teens AND adults is being CONNECTED to a community who can support you through your difficult times.
You are invited to join us in The Gratitude Lounge Facebook group. During the month of May, the lounge will be buzzing with conversation about the Resilient Teen interviews. Whether you’re a teen, parent, grandparent, teacher, if you’re interested in supporting teens, or learning about resilience, CLICK HERE TO JOIN us on Facebook.
A teen in my neighbourhood took her own life over a week ago. My heart goes out to her family, friends, and her school community who is grieving her loss and wondering what they could have done to prevent her death.
Just today I met a woman who recently lost her son, who took his own life. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to go through each day knowing that your child is gone. And wondering what you could have done, if you had only known what was REALLY going on in your child’s mind. This is every parent’s worst nightmare.
In Canada, suicide is the second highest cause of death for youth aged 10-24.
Suicide prevention isn’t a term that I use often because it evokes our fear of losing those closest to us, however, for some parents and teens that fear is very real.
Suicide prevention strategies might seem like something that only a few people, in very extreme situations, or teens labelled as “high risk” might need.
Today, I’m inviting you to think differently about suicide prevention by thinking about your own Mental Health.
Mental Health is important for EVERYONE because we all face difficult periods in our life. The loss of a family member, losing a job, divorce, having to move, all of these stressers have an impact on our mental health. The pressure on adolescents to be successful at school and be successful socially is intense, and teens don’t always have the understanding that their difficult times are only temporary.
I know that many teens roll their eyes when we talk about mental health in schools, because they feel like it doesn’t affect them. Or their deep shame about their own internal dialogue prevents them from reaching out for support.
This is why we NEED to embed mental health education in the high school curriculum.
As an English Language Arts specialist, I know that literature allows us an amazing opportunity to explore the thoughts and behaviours of fictional characters to open an continue on a conversation about mental health that can last weeks and months, instead of minutes or an hour.
Understanding mental health through fictional characters also helps us understand that mental health is not an individual issue, but that there are environmental, social, and physiological factors that can impact our mental health.
Mindfulness practice is also a way for students AND teachers to learn the strategies necessary for checking in on their own thoughts, and learning to shift their thoughts in a way that supports their mental health. Whether you’re a teen, or an adult, EVERYONE needs to check in with the thoughts they’re having on a consistent basis. Mindfulness practice gives you that time and space to check in with your thoughts.
The Canadian Mental Health Association describes 5 characteristics of Mental Health, which are
- Ability to enjoy life
CLICK HERE to take the Canadian Mental Health Association’s Health Meter to really check in with your own mental health. Only YOU really know your heart and mind.
You deserve a life that FEELS GOOD!
Yours in mental health,
P.S. The first step is admitting your mental health status to yourself. The next step is reaching out for support. For immediate, 24 hour support call kids help line.
I was just reading Growing Up Mindful by Clinical Psychologist Christopher Willard, and I was SHOCKED (forgive the pun) when I read that, “A recent study found that young men would rather receive ten minutes of low-level electric shocks than spend ten minutes alone with their thoughts, without electronics” (pg 3, Growing Up Mindful)
This is the heartbreaking truth for many of our teens today: They would rather CHECK OUT with social media, shopping, eating, drugs, etc, than CHECK IN with their own thoughts and emotions.
WHY? Because they have never been TAUGHT how to CHECK IN, and SHIFT their thoughts and emotions.
Checking in with your own thoughts and emotions is a CRITICAL SKILL for life which generates:
- Authentic CONFIDENCE
- Healthy BOUNDARIES
- Healthy DECISION MAKING
If you are a TEEN, or the parent of a TEEN, It’s time to learn how to
CHECK IN to your authentic confidence (this doesn’t mean taking over the room, it means knowing what you stand for and not second-guessing yourself)
CHECK IN to your POWER and WISDOM
You’re invited to CHECK IN to Power Centers: Unlock the power of your LEGENDARY SELF by learning to CHECK IN not CHECK OUT
This 8 week program will guide you step-by-step through a process of CHECKING IN with yourself
CLICK HERE to register
In this 8 week series, you’ll learn how to
- Accept yourself
- Balance Creativity and Discipline
- Develop Authentic Confidence
- Love yourself
- Speak UP
- Trust yourself
- Connect to your Purpose
- Set Healthy Boundaries
I’m SO excited to share this with you!
CLICK HERE to grab your spot!
With gratitude for YOU!
P.S. We start on Tuesday, February 21st, so don’t delay! CLICK HERE to register
“Hey voice in my head”
“tell me something you like about me”
“Hey voice in my head”
Get OUT of this cycle of thought and turn that inner critic into your inner coach.
Join me for HEART POWER for teens: Transform your inner critic into your inner coach for authentic confidence.
This is a 3 part webinar series.January 31, February 7, February 14, 2017
CLICK HERE to register
I look forward to seeing you there!
Are you declaring 2017 to be a year for YOU?
Are you ready to step into your life in a way that is deeply aligned with your values?
Is a part of you feeling guilty that focusing more on YOU will mean focusing less on your teens?
I know that adults who are focused on their own growth and development are MORE aware of how they can support their teens in ways that are sustainable and lasting.
Go ahead- make this the year that YOU step into your own life, and get clear on your role in your teen’s life.
I’m here to help.
Happy New Year!
I know you love your kids. I also know that sometimes you pour so much love into your kids that it hurts. It hurts because you’ve sacrificed a lot of your time, money, and life force energy to support your kids.
It hurts your heart when you feel like you should’ve done more.
It hurts your heart when they don’t seem to appreciate all that you’ve done for them.
It hurts your heart when you give and give and give and feel so depleted.
This kind of giving is not sustainable.
So how do we figure out how to show them that we love them without depleting ourselves?
How often do you give YOURSELF the time, money, and life force energy and support that YOU need?
Even more than showing our teens that we love THEM, we need to show our teens that we love OURSELVES.
We need to love ourselves to model for our teens that they can love themselves.
The sooner we’re able to teach our children that it’s their job to figure out what they need, and to find a way to give it to themselves, the stronger our teens will be.
Teens who can fill themselves up are more confident and make healthier choices because they’re not looking for other people to give them the feelings they crave.
So, how can YOU start to show YOURSELF some love?
Let me just say it,
Self love feels selfish.
Whenever I schedule in some time just for me to do something that I enjoy (like have a long bath, or go for a walk by myself, or drink a cup of tea and look out the window), I feel like I’m taking time I could use to work, or be with my family, or run some errands. Once I realised that if I feel like I’ve been deeply nourished, then I can be more playful and present with my family when I’m with them, then I no longer felt like I was TAKING time, instead I was GIVING my family the best version of myself.
CAUTION. If you haven’t been taking some quality time for yourself, you will feel like you are a bottomless pit. After one blissful hour to yourself, you’ll feel like an hour isn’t enough. It will feel SO GOOD that you’ll worry that you’ll need more and more time away for yourself. You’ll feel like you could just check in to a hotel for a few days and then…just…never…go…home.
Don’t worry. That’s just a signal that you need to schedule more time for yourself, and once you get the hang of incorporating time for yourself into your schedule, you’ll realise how NECESSARY this time is to be at your best. Once you’ve started giving yourself the time, and space, and emotional availability to listen to your deepest needs, you’ll have a greater sense of clarity around what YOU need, and what your family needs.
Of course, you will go home, because you’ll start missing your family. You’ll remember all the quirky and wonderful things you love about them and you’ll be interested in what they have to say. What an amazing gift for your family to have you back with them with love in your heart for yourself, and for them.
When we give ourselves love, then giving love to others is no longer depleting, it is sustainable because we have a better sense of clarity around how to best show our family that we love them.
P.S. What would really nourish you on a deep level? Jump on the phone with me for 30 minutes and we can create an amazing plan that will have your LOVE levels so high, you’ll have love to give! CLICK HERE to connect with me!